Patience...A Forgotten Virtue

On the path to kick procrastination in the butt, Rory Vaden has asked us to answer three important questions.

In the Eliminate stage, it was, “Is this task something I can live without?”

In the Automate stage, it was “Can this task be systematized?”

In the Delegate stage, it was “Can this task be performed by someone else?”

If the answer to those three questions is No, then guess what?  It’s our turn to do something!

But before we jump head first into the task, there is an essential element to consider.

Timing.

Finally, the title of Vaden’s book, Procrastinate on Purpose, starts to makes sense.

Seems counterintuitive, uncomfortable even, but he is challenging us to… wait.

What? Wait?  I thought we didn’t want to procrastinate!

Turns out there is a big difference between avoiding something because it is uncomfortable to do it (procrastinating), and deliberately postponing something because it is not actually the right time to do it (being patient).

Hence, Procrastinating on Purpose. 

Turns out many great minds are on the same page when it comes to patience and timing:

“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is "timing;"

it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.”

​​​​​​~Fulton J. Sheen

“The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.”

​​​​​~Joshua Harris

Or my favorite:

“The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.”

​​​​​~Willie Nelson

Patience… sadly lacking in today’s climate of rush, rush, rush.

Patience gives us time to pause, to think, to breathe, to allow what is truly important to rise to the surface, for external conditions to become clear, for our own priorities to become clear.

Patience gives us room to breathe, so we are not madly sprinting from urgent task to urgent task, but instead taking stock of what is truly important, so that when we do take action, we do so in alignment with our spirit. We can be fully present to the task at hand, knowing that we are indeed doing the right thing at the right time, for the right reasons.

Permission to eliminate and the myth of multi-tasking

If you’ve been following along, you know I’ve been sharing my insights from Rory Vaden’s book Procrastinate on Purpose. 

Vaden talks about 5 permissions to procrastinate, the first being the permission to eliminate, or ignore.  He asks us to consider all the things that we are doing, but shouldn’t be doing.

Sounds simple, right?

He shares a long list of likely candidates – revisiting decisions we have already made, attending unnecessary meetings, alternating between activities, watching TV (did you know that, according to A.C. Nielsen Co., the average American watches more than 4 hours of TV each day, which in a 65 year life span means 9 years!?), gossiping, volunteering too much, and the list goes on and on.

One of the ones that really jumped out at me, and I wager I’m not alone here, is switching between activities, also known as multi-tasking.  I must admit, I’ve been proud of my ability to multi-task. Many of us have - it’s become a cultural badge of honor.

The fact is, according to neurological research, multi-tasking is actually a myth. We are not mentally capable of doing two things at once, we are actually just switching back and forth between tasks very quickly.

Multi-tasking, despite its elevated stature in our hyper-paced society, is stressful and anxiety provoking, harms our creativity and concentration and actually costs us time, energy and efficiency.

I think it’s actually an addiction.  I mean, let’s be honest, how long can we go before checking our email or our smart phone?

So, what’s the answer?

Here are two suggestions that I am implementing:

1. Be the boss of your technology.  I, for one, must admit to being a slave to my cell phone ringer… What if I miss something important?  So here is a radical notion; turn the ringer off for periods of time so you can actually concentrate on what you are doing.
2. Focus on one task at a time; keep doing it until you have completed it before starting another. If you were to peek at my computer screen, you would probably be horrified to see how many screens I have open at once. No more!

I’m already feeling withdrawal pangs…

How about you,  what can you eliminate today so you have time for what really matters?